Why People Are So Superficial

The vast majority of people live superficial lives, existing solely to satisfy their immediate needs and wants with no consideration in mind beyond just getting through the present moment. What makes this behavior so tragic is that human beings have the capability to live much more deep, rich, emotional, meaningful, multifaceted, creative, courageous lives.

People are superficial because they have no idea there is an alternative. They go about their days doing what they’ve always done: going to their jobs, completing tasks, buying stuff, doing recreational activities, socializing, talking about hobbies or current events or the weather or the kids or family or work, thinking and feeling the same things, and being the same people they were in high school. They don’t reflect or change or grow significantly. They just exist.

What’s missing from this type of life experience is anything beyond just getting by day-to-day. There’s no nuance, complexity, or emotional depth. There are reasons people live this way, they get something out of it.

Benefits of Being Superficial

• It’s easier than being deep.
• You don’t have to be courageous.
• You don’t have to feel uncomfortable things.
• You can enjoy familiar habits and patterns.
• It’s easier to not think critically.
• You don’t have to look at or work on yourself.
• It’s more predictable.
• You don’t have to be vulnerable.
• You feel in control.
• You don’t have to take responsibility for your thoughts and actions.
• You don’t have to take risks.
• You can avoid facing your fears.
• You never have to grow.
• You can always be the same.
• You don’t have to interact with people on a deeper level.
• You don’t have to face or heal the hurts from your past.
• You can hide the real you.

A superficial life is incredibly appealing to the vast majority of people because it’s the only thing they know. People have been living this way for eons because they haven’t been exposed to different options. There is a much better path and it starts with changing your behavior.

How to Not Be Superficial

• Heal your inner hurts.
• Feel your emotions.
• Take calculated risks.
• Love unconditionally.
• Be vulnerable.
• Trust people.
• Be open to new things.
• Be creative.
• Think expansively.
• Dare to dream.
• Do cool stuff.
• Be yourself.

There are a lot of rewards awaiting you when you go deeper.

Benefits of Not Being Superficial

• You experience life to its fullest.
• You’re comfortable with your emotions.
• You get to be the real you.
• You make the world a better place.
• You live courageously.
• You’re constantly growing.
• You enjoy all kinds of new things.
• Your life is more varied.
• You truly connect with people.
• You know what joy is.
• You live passionately.

You only live once and you get exactly one chance to make your life count. When you live deeply, new opportunities for bliss and fulfillment present themselves and your path changes for the better.

Imagine a world populated by people living deeply, joyfully, and expansively. We could get rid of so much of the petty strife that occurs at every level of society because people would be living profoundly fulfilling, emotionally healthy lives. We could work together instead of competing, we could create a kind world instead of a cutthroat one. We could treat ourselves and each other much better. There would be no limit to what we could do, all because we had the courage to move away from superficiality.

We’ve been doing the old stuff that doesn’t work for a long time though we are capable of far more. I propose we leave superficiality behind and go deeper. It will make all of us much happier. What are your thoughts?